How to Stop Job Hopping Once and For All

I’ve written in the past about the pros and cons of job hopping. Yes, it’s true; you can spin it any way you want. But let’s be real: job hopping is no fun. Whether it’s a “good thing” or a “bad thing,” for your career might be debatable in theory. But, in reality, it’s a serious pain.

When you bounce from job to job, you find yourself in a perpetual state of transition, never really settled. You’re always “new,” trying to learn the ropes and figure out the next step in your “career”. You’re always playing catch up.

If you remain a job hopper for a prolonged period of time, you may even find yourself sliding slowly backwards. Five years down the line, you could look back and realize you’re not just standing still (professionally speaking), you’re actually regressing—your skills are deteriorating and your resume is becoming a scattered, inconsistent mess.

If you’re reading this and thinking, “Oh no! That’s me!” I want you to keep reading. Don’t panic, but pay attention. I’m going to tell you how to stop job hopping once and for all.

First off, STOP. Don’t make any drastic moves. My guess is that drastic, spontaneous moves are what got you into this situation.

It’s time to take things slow.

Here’s what usually happens: You find yourself in a job that doesn’t match who you are and what you want. You decide it’s time to leave. But, instead of taking your time and figuring out the RIGHT move for your career, you get anxious. You start blanketing the town with your resume, talking to everyone you know. With every minute that goes by, your panic rises.

So, when the first opportunity comes along, you jump.

“It’s not perfect,” you think. “But it’s something.”

Then, a few months down the line, it happens again. You’re not happy. You panic. You jump onto the next thing, knowing it’s still not perfect but at least it’s somewhat better.

It’s a vicious, painful, stressful, self-inflicted cycle.

Now is the time to put an end to it. Your situation will never improve if you don’t slow down and think before making your next move. In the past, you haven’t taken the time or invested the energy to make strategic career moves. You’ve simply leapt without looking—out of panic, out of fear, or out of sheer frustration. You’ve taken the route that, on the surface appeared to be easier and faster, but ultimately lead to more pain.

To stop the cycle, you need to do everything in your power to make sure your next career move doesn’t lead you down the same path. You need to take a different approach. You need to follow a smart, strategic and structured process that has proven results. No more guessing. No more grand leaps of faith. It’s time to do the work on the front-end to make sure your results on the back-end are actually what you want.

But here’s the problem many job hoppers have: They don’t know what they want. They’ve been entrenched in this cycle for so long, they’re starting to worry that nothing will satisfy them. They start to think that no job within reach will pay a decent wage and still provide them with some level of fulfillment. They start to believe that settling is their only option.

Sound familiar? Snap out of it.

You deserve career fulfillment and yes, it’s possible—no matter who you are. If you haven’t found it yet, you haven’t made it a priority. You’re not really trying.

I know that sounds harsh, but it’s the truth. There’s no mystery here. Finding the right career is a science. It takes some work, but there are few things more rewarding in life.

If you’re ready to stop the vicious cycle of job hopping once and for all, I invite you to join me for a free webinar:

How to Stop Job Hopping & Find Career Fulfillment

Date: TBD

Time: TBD

Do you bounce from one job to the next, never feeling satisfied? Do you worry that you’ll never find a job that pays a decent wage and makes you happy? You’re not alone! But you don’t have to accept this as a way of life. Everyone can find long-lasting career fulfillment and success…even YOU. During this webinar, I’ll give you real strategies for overcoming the challenges that have kept you professionally stuck and unhappy for way too long.

Attendees will learn:

  • How to stop negative job hopping patterns—and why NOW is the time to do it
  • Why conducting proactive career research will ensure you make the RIGHT career moves at the RIGHT time
  • How to identify your own career preferences (and ignore the negative influences of others)
  • The 4-step process you MUST follow in order to find long-term stability and peace-of-mind

Register for free here: THIS WEBINAR HAS BEEN RESCHEDULED–More information will provided soon.

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Why Emotional Decisions Aren’t Always Bad

Okay, listen up guys. I don’t say this often but here goes…

I was wrong.

Well, maybe not completely wrong. But a little wrong.

You see, I’ve written a lot in the past about why letting emotions guide you in the decision-making process is a dangerous thing. I, like the rest of the world, have been trained to believe that emotional decisions almost always lead to disaster.

“Calm down,” people say. “Don’t make a decision while you’re feeling emotional.”

Logic, we’re told, is the key to rational decision-making. Use your head, not your heart.

Only, the problem is, that’s not entirely true. Emotions aren’t just there to distract us. They have a purpose, and a rather important one at that.

Ignoring your emotions or simply “setting them aside” while you intellectually evaluate a problem means you could be missing a critical message from your subconscious brain.

I’m currently listening to an audiobook called “How We Decide,” by Jonah Lehrer. In it, he talks about the psychological pathways that lead us to make good (or bad) decisions.

Emotions, he says, can be a great source of intuition. Sometimes, your brain is able to connect the dots of the information it receives in a way that is so subtle it’s actually not even understandable by the conscious brain. The brain can see patterns we aren’t even aware of. Often, this information is translated into a “feeling.”

Let’s say you’ve just received an offer for a new job and you have a gut feeling that it’s not the right thing for you. When you set aside the emotion and just look at the facts, you see no reason to decline the offer. After all, it pays well, it’s close to home, it has all the elements you said you were looking for. And yet, something just feels off.

That feeling could be your body’s way of telling you there’s a problem. Perhaps your subconscious brain has picked up on signals you missed. Maybe it sensed patterns that matched dissatisfying past job experiences.

On paper, everything might look perfect. But, just because you can’t see it or understand it or explain it, doesn’t mean your brain isn’t picking up on real evidence that this is the wrong fit.

Feelings can be red flags telling you to sit up and pay attention. Don’t discredit them just because they aren’t supported by the kind of “logic” you’re familiar with. The brain is a powerful thing. And feelings ultimately come from the brain.

Now, I’m not saying that you can set aside facts and solely rely on your gut. That’s just silly. But I do believe that emotions can and should play a role in decision-making. And that’s where I’ve been wrong. I’ve long advocated that rational, unemotional, intellectual evaluation is the best path to making a good decision. The evidence in “How We Decide” proves that isn’t always the case.

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Free Coaching Call: January 2012

In case you missed it, I held my first free monthly coaching call of 2012 last week. You can listen to the recorded version using the audio player below.

If you’d like to participate in the next call, please register and submit a question by visiting this page. Note that next month’s call will be on a Wednesday (not the typical Thursday).

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Shoot for the Moon

Here’s a little bit of trivia about me you probably didn’t know: I was the senior speaker at my high school graduation ceremony. Now, let me be clear: I went to a very small, independent study high school where most of the students attended just one day of class per week. The ceremony was actually held in the parking lot. So I’m not bragging here. I wasn’t valedictorian, though I did graduate with honors. I was actually selected to be senior speaker by the students and the faculty, which—for me—is even better than if I had been chosen for my grades.

So, why do bring this up? Because I wanted to share a quote from my graduation speech. It’s one that still inspires me to this day.

In everything you do, shoot for the moon. Because even if you miss, at least you’re among the stars.

I’m not sure who said this or where it came from. I don’t even remember the first time I heard it. But the words were so powerful; they’ve stayed with me for decades now.

The other day, I was reminded of this quote while interviewing Dick Bolles, the author of What Color Is Your Parachute? (By the way, if you missed it, you can listen to it here.)

During our conversation, while discussing the concept of searching for your “dream job,” Mr. Bolles said the following:

You have to start with the largest vision of what you really, really, really want to do with your life so that if you only get 60 percent of that, you’ve gotten far, far more than if you started with a vision that you hacked down in the name of supposed reality.

How often do you find yourself aiming low because it’s more “realistic”? What are you perhaps missing out on because of that? What if you aimed higher? What if, dare I say it, you aimed for the very top? Even if fell short, would you not possibly end up better off in the long run?

Sometimes, it feels safer and easier to keep your hopes in check. Why try for something that seems so far out of reach? This kind of thinking only limits what you’re capable of. It doesn’t challenge you. It doesn’t inspire you. And it forces you to play small.

So, as I told my graduating class back in 1996, shoot for the moon. Whether you’re looking for your next job, your next home or your next mate. Aim for the dream. You might not get it, but then again…you just might.




My 2012 Career and Business Plan

Career PlanningAs we head down the final stretch of 2011, I (like the rest of the world) am engaging in a little annual professional planning and review session. Today, I thought I’d share some of the highlights with you. After all, plans are much easier to keep when you share them with the world, don’t you think?

I would say, all in all, I’m pretty pleased with 2011. In total, I’d call it a productive, successful year for me professionally. I had some amazing clients, I created a lot of cool products, and I made a decent living financially.

But there’s always room for growth. So, I’ve done a lot of analysis over the past few weeks (and a little soul searching as well), and I’ve created a plan for 2012 that I feel honors my true gifts and the areas of my work that really feed my soul.

Mind you, there are a few fairly major changes here. But I’m convinced that they make sense. And, best of all, I truly believe that plans are never set in stone. So, if these things start to feel “wrong”, I’m giving myself permission right now to rethink my strategies and course-correct as needed. (You should give yourself this same leeway when making your career plans!)

Here’s a quick overview of the items in which you may be interested:

1.    Shift of Focus

As you may know, I run two businesses. One is what you see here. I provide a variety of products and services dedicated to helping people just like you to achieve career success and fulfillment. The other is a freelance writing and editing business. This year, I’ve had a hard time figuring out the perfect mix of work. I like having two different gigs—the diversity of work means I’m never bored—but it often leaves me feeling fractured. So, I’m making a very clear commitment in 2012 to maintain a 70/30 split. 70 percent of my time will be spent on writing and editing projects for my various clients, and 30 percent of my time will be spent on my career services work. Hopefully, this very intentional way of thinking about my time will help me feel more in control of my choices.

2.    No More One-on-One Coaching

This one is a biggie. While it was a hard decision, I don’t question that the time has come to move away from this work. I absolutely love my clients, but (considering the shift of focus discussed above) my schedule can only handle a limited number of one-on-one appointments each week. Over the last year, I’ve also found that many of my clients have similar questions, concerns and situations, and I know they would benefit greatly from working together—not just with me, but also with one another. This realization has inspired me to shift my 2012 coaching focus to…

3.    New Group Coaching Programs

Instead of one-on-one coaching, I’m now only going to offer group coaching, which thrills me to no end! This will give my future clients amazing new opportunities they wouldn’t have had in a one-on-one setting. They’ll be able to learn from others who are going through the exact same thing as them, and they’ll develop bonds that simply don’t tend to happen all that often in life. The people in group coaching programs end up feeling like family. I’ve experienced it time and time again (as a participant and as a leader), and I can’t wait to help facilitate it for you. Plus, group programs are significantly more affordable (about one-fourth the cost of an individual program).

The first group coaching program will be 4 months long (running from March through June) and will be on the topic of “Finding Your Right Career Path.” So, if you’re a job hopper, or if you’re simply not content doing what you’re doing but you have no idea what the next step should be (or how to go about doing it), this program is for you.  Every group program will include a variety of activities: webinars, Q&A sessions, buddy calls, etc. You’ll be busy, but it’s well worth it.

Registration isn’t open yet for the Finding Your Right Career Path program, but if you think you might be interested, get your name on the list early and you’ll get special Early Bird Pricing. Just visit this page and submit your info. When registration opens, you’ll get first dibbs plus a $50 off coupon. By getting on the list early, you’re not obligated to join. You’re just expressing possible interest and getting the coupon.

4.    More Webinar Series

Earlier this year, I held a very successful 4-part webinar series called Building Powerful Professional Relationships. The feedback was astounding! And I loved doing it. So, in 2012, I’ll be offering this same series once again, along with a brand new one called Winning the Inner Game of Career Success.

The first series, Building Powerful Professional Relationships, will be held in May so mark your calendar now. Registration isn’t yet open, but you can learn more about it here.

Note: Because the material has been slightly revised, everyone who attended this series in 2011 will get free attendance to this. You will receive an email with details.

The second series, Winning the Inner Game of Career Success, will be held in July. Details aren’t yet available but will be soon.

5.    More Corporate Group Coaching

I’ve also decided to focus more on leading small group coaching programs for teams. As you may know, my core audience is administrative professionals. I really enjoy going into companies and working with teams of admins to help them feel more productive, more empowered, and more motivated. The two-day program I’ve developed is pretty amazing (if I do say so myself) and it has seen a lot of success in the past. And I’m always happy to customize my work to meet the specific needs of the company and team I’m serving. I’d love to tell you more about it if you’re interested.  If you think your team and your organization would benefit from working with me, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Or, you can always connect me with your HR Director or another appropriate individual at your company.

6.    Free Stuff Continuing

While I’m hoping to have several new products available (for sale) in the next few months, I also want you to know that I’m planning on continuing to offer my monthly free coaching calls as well as a variety of free webinars and free video training in 2012. These have been so popular—and I enjoy doing them so much—there’s no reason to stop!

I could go on and on, but I don’t want to bore you more than I already have. If you haven’t started working on your 2012 plan, I encourage you to get started! (If you need help, I recommend grabbing a copy of my Build Your Professional Development Plan e-Workbook). This kind of planning is really fun and it helps give you a sense of focus and control. After completing mine, I feel ready to hit the ground running in the new year.

What can I do to help you on your professional journey in 2012?

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