The Voice that Says You Can’t
Youâve just had the most amazing idea. It hits you like a tidal wave and nearly knocks you off your seat. THIS is the best idea youâve ever had and youâre so excited to get started.
And thenâŠthe voice shows up.
âWho are you kidding? Youâll never accomplish that!â
âYeah, yeah, yeah. Youâve had âgreatâ ideas before and none of them have ever worked out. What makes you think this will be any different?â
âThatâs a horrible idea. No one will get it.â
âMaybe itâs a great ideaâŠbut you canât do it. Someone else will come up with it and do it better anyway.â
Does any of this sound familiar?
That voice is whatâs known as âThe Saboteur.â
The Saboteur is a nagging, negative mental manifestation that tries to sabotage your efforts to grow and disrupt your desire to achieve new things. This guy is a real pain in the butt. He appears in a number of different ways and can use thousands of different disguises.
We all have saboteurs but many people donât recognize them. The Saboteur doesnât speak the truth but he still sounds pretty convincing. Donât let yourself be swayed by his charms.
Here are a few things you need to know when dealing with The Saboteur:
The Saboteur Is Not Your Friend
Letâs be clear: That voice is a jerk. Seriously. His sole purpose is to discourage you and keep you from taking any risk at all. While he might sound like a caring, thoughtful voice of reason, heâs actually just a nervous nelly. Heâs not looking out for your best interests, no matter what he says. Don’t hang out with him; don’t humor him. He’s no friend of yours.
The Saboteur Is Stuck in the Past
That voice only knows what happened in the past. He doesnât know whatâs possible or what could be. His job is to take the lessons youâve learned and hold them over your head forever and ever. Sure, itâs a necessary part of growth to learn from history. But remember that the past isnât always an accurate indicator of the future.
The Saboteur Loves the Comfort Zone
That voice comes up when the possibility of discomfort arises. He doesnât want you to rock the boat. In his opinion, comfort is the most important thing in life. Of course, as you know, any kind of growth requires a little unease. So, if it were up to The Saboteur, youâd stay right where you are forever. Youâd never move forward, youâd never improve. Youâd live in the comfort zone and slowly waste away.
The Saboteur Doesnât Have Faith In You
That voice isnât aware of your capabilities. Heâs not worried about pushing you towards your personal destiny or helping you become your best self. He doesnât think youâre worth much anyway.
See what I mean? That voice is a JERK!! Keep your eye out for The Saboteur and donât let him run the show. When you see him, say âhelloâ and simply ask him to take a hike. Thereâs no sense trying to reason with him or change his mind. Just put him in a box, place that box on a shelf, and carry on. Like I said, we all have saboteurs. The goal is to recognize them and manage them, so they donât manage you!!
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