If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you.
— Arthur McAuliff
If at first you don’t succeed, failure may be your style.
— Quentin Crisp
If at first you don’t succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried.
— Author Unknown
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.Â Then give up.Â There’s no use in being a damn fool about it.
— W.C. Fields
If at first you don’t succeed, do it like your mother told you.
— Author Unknown
If at first you do succeed, try to hide your astonishment.
— Author Unknown
If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average.
— M.H. Alderson
This article is the fourth in a 10-part series on the topic of overcoming career-limiting habits.
I heard once that the Chinese character for the word â€śchangeâ€ť was a combination of two other characters: chaos and opportunity. Now, donâ€™t quote me on this. I have no idea of if itâ€™s correct. But in theory, it makes sense.
When a recent study ranked â€śresistance to changeâ€ť as number 4 in a list of the most common career-limiting habits, I immediately remembered this little piece of trivia. Change is indeed a combination of chaos and opportunity. Those who are resistant, I think, are only looking at one side of the equation. Theyâ€™re forgetting about the opportunity and focusing only on the chaos. And who wouldnâ€™t resist that?
We all know that change is the only constant in life and nowhere is that more true than in the workplace. Technology alone forces us to be adaptable and learn new things on nearly a daily basis. The business world is always evolving in big ways and small (think: mergers, acquisitions, restructuring, etc.).
Change is absolutely unavoidable so, as the trekkies say, resistance is futile. Successful professionals have to be willing to embrace change, even when the outcome is still unknown.
Here are a few tips for learning to love change in the workplace:
Recognize When Youâ€™re Resisting
A great first step for most people is simply to recognize when change is happening and how youâ€™re reacting. If youâ€™re resistant, figure out whatâ€™s beneath the resistance. Is it fear? Why are you pushing back when everything around you is moving forward?
Look for the Opportunity
Remember that change = chaos + opportunity. Itâ€™s a two-part equation. What potential exists within the change? Shine a spotlight there.
Make It Less Dramatic
An overnight, sudden change is much harder to handle than a gradual shift. Itâ€™s like the â€śfrog in a boiling waterâ€ť scenario (which, being an animal lover, I hate!!). When you see change on the horizon, be proactive. Do what you can to ease the transition, minimize the chaos and enhance the opportunity.
Release Emotional Attachments
Let go of the feelings you have associated with the old way of doing things. Comfort can be more emotional than rational. Remember that youâ€™re endlessly adaptable and that growth almost always comes with discomfort. Learn to simply go with the flow and see where the wave takes you.
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This article is the third in a 10-part series on the topic of overcoming career-limiting habits.
Let me be honest: Iâ€™ve been putting off writing this article for a few days. Since weâ€™re looking at the career-limiting habit of procrastination, I feel itâ€™s appropriate that you know this. And let me also say that I donâ€™t whole-heartedly think procrastination is a â€śbadâ€ť thing.
Before you storm off and accuse me of promoting poor work habits, hear me outâ€¦
In a recent study that cited the 10 most common career-limiting habits, procrastination ranked at number 3, just behind unreliability and â€śthatâ€™s not my job.â€ť
Now, I can assume that the kind of procrastination being referenced here is the kind that leads to missed deadlines and other shoddy performance indicators. But not all procrastination is equal. And procrastination, in my view, isnâ€™t at all like unreliability. Hereâ€™s why:
Itâ€™s never cool to be unreliable. On the other hand, itâ€™s sometimes perfectly okayâ€”even desirableâ€”to procrastinate. Itâ€™s a form of prioritization and a tool for time management. We canâ€™t do every single task right this minute. Some items are more important than others. Some are more urgent. We have to purposefully defer less important/less urgent tasks to make room for the ones that take priority. So, Iâ€™m not willing to lump procrastination in a big bucket just a few steps removed from unreliability.
Procrastination becomes a problem, however, when itâ€™s not being used productively or when it becomes a mindless form of escape. For example, when you find yourself putting something off because you simply donâ€™t want to do it, or because youâ€™re afraid of doing it, or because you conveniently find other, more interesting things to do (even when the activity youâ€™re putting off really should come first).
So how do you know if youâ€™re procrastinating in the career-limiting kind of way or if youâ€™re just prioritizing? Well, itâ€™s all about purpose and performance.
What are your reasons for procrastinating?
Are you deferring projects because other items rightfully should come first? Or are you simply hiding from what needs to get done? Often, problematic procrastination stems from fear: Youâ€™re afraid to work on a specific task because it feels overwhelming, or you donâ€™t know where to start, or youâ€™re a perfectionist and you fear your work will never measure up. There are all kinds of fears that can prevent you from just getting started even when you know you should.
Is your quality of work slipping?
Are you putting off important tasks and then finding yourself rushed to complete them on time? Are you failing to give your work the appropriate amount of attention? The outcome is what matters so you know your procrastination has gone too far and stumbled into â€śunproductive territoryâ€ť when it leads to poor performance results.
What can you do about it?
If youâ€™re plagued by procrastination for all the wrong reasons and itâ€™s negatively impacting your work, try the following:
1. Learn to Prioritize Correctly
Each task should be evaluated based on importance and urgency. The unimportant, non-urgent items are the ones that can be easily deferred with little or no harm (and hopefully, in the future, they can be deleted all together). If youâ€™re procrastinating the incorrect items, itâ€™s time to review your prioritization practices.
2. Forget Perfection
Remember that everything evolves. You can make improvements as you move forward. Donâ€™t get stuck because of some unrealistic standard youâ€™ve imposed on yourself.
3. Keep It Bite-Sized
If youâ€™re overwhelmed with the size of a project and putting it off because you donâ€™t know where to start, break it down into bite-sized pieces. One step at a time is the best way to tackle these projects. Youâ€™ll be able to wrap your head around what needs to be done and youâ€™ll also experience small victories along the way as you accomplish each baby step.
4. Stop Fooling Yourself
People often tell me that procrastination helps them focus. They wait until the last minute because the added pressure gives them a boost of energy and creativity. This smells like an excuse to me.
In all probability, you could produce even better work given the time to think about what youâ€™re doing. Youâ€™ll catch mistakes that would go unnoticed in a pinch; youâ€™ll have the ability to explore alternative solutions instead of simply rushing down the first path you find; and youâ€™ll be able to really focus on the work, rather than being distracted with the stress and anxiety of an impending deadline.
Take some time to evaluate your procrastination practices. Are you using this tool effectively or are you suffering with a career-limiting habit?
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