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4 Reasons to Love the Boss You Hate

I’m not a big fan of the word “hate” but let me be honest: I’ve definitely felt some very, VERY strong negativity toward a few of my superiors in the past. Hey, I’m only human. This is probably one of the most common challenges I hear from professionals.

Working for someone you don’t like is the absolute worst. And yet, it can be a great learning experience if you approach it with the right attitude.

Here are 4 reasons you should love that boss you hate:

1. Personal Insight

You can actually learn a lot about yourself in a situation like this. Consider the following questions:

  • Why does this person get under your skin?
  • What values are being stepped on here?
  • How are you possibly contributing to the situation? (Ouch! Don’t skip this question; it will give you amazing insight.)
  • What do you really want from a boss? Are you, perhaps, expecting too much?
  • What kind of leader would YOU be?

2. Practice

Look, the business world is full of jerks. Consider this great practice for the future. You’re exercising patience and your ability to not take things personally. With practice, it gets easier.

3. Future Wisdom

After working for someone with whom you don’t click, you’ll be on the lookout for a better match in the future. Next time you’re interviewing for a new position, you’ll be more aware of the impact a supervisor has, and you’ll have more understanding of what you want in a boss. Perhaps you’ll see red flags you might have missed before.

4. Opportunity

I know this sounds a little nutty, but that jerk of a boss is giving you a great opportunity. You have the chance to adapt, to implement new strategies and, ultimately, build a bridge in some fashion. It might never be the perfect relationship, but there’s always a chance you can improve things. So don’t give up! Look for openings to strengthen your partnership. Use your relationship building skills and develop new ones. There IS room for growth here.

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3 Responses to “4 Reasons to Love the Boss You Hate”

  1. Thanks for this lessons. Employee must get benefited out of it. Healthy relationship can be established in the organisation.

  2. Heather says:

    This is me now. I am trying to finds ways to move forward in a more positive way. I took a job without investigating the company a little further. I was new to the area and honestly, needed the paycheck. I am searching for a new job now and I am absolutely approaching it from a new perspective. Thank you.

  3. Walter says:

    I have for a very long time had resentment formed from my Father”s condescending attitude instilled in me early on in life. Somehow I have had repeated my response to this abusive belittlement of my person throughout my work history. My anger has always stayed strong until I was able to see that I was only hurting myself. It is a big pill to swallow when you know that you are a good person, a good employee and you continually find yourself in dire straights because you cannot and will not tolerate these uninhibited, barbaric animals that seek to abuse my “feelings” and are able to manipulate me through this process. I must stop myself from continually giving these superiors permission subconsciously, to get the best of me, “I am worth more than that”.
    So, Thank you for being here. Thank You for letting me know that I must acknowledge the triggers. Respond in a professional manner and most of all DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY. I am to sensitive sometimes or the “Bosses” are to Insensitive. I am going to regroup, and take the risk at trying a Humbling response rather than playing the Myrta. I will rise above this insolence. Thank You

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