I’m not a big fan of the word “hate” but let me be honest: I’ve definitely felt some very, VERY strong negativity toward a few of my superiors in the past. Hey, I’m only human. This is probably one of the most common challenges I hear from professionals.
Working for someone you don’t like is the absolute worst. And yet, it can be a great learning experience if you approach it with the right attitude.
Here are 4 reasons you should love that boss you hate:
1. Personal Insight
You can actually learn a lot about yourself in a situation like this. Consider the following questions:
- Why does this person get under your skin?
- What values are being stepped on here?
- How are you possibly contributing to the situation? (Ouch! Don’t skip this question; it will give you amazing insight.)
- What do you really want from a boss? Are you, perhaps, expecting too much?
- What kind of leader would YOU be?
Look, the business world is full of jerks. Consider this great practice for the future. You’re exercising patience and your ability to not take things personally. With practice, it gets easier.
3. Future Wisdom
After working for someone with whom you don’t click, you’ll be on the lookout for a better match in the future. Next time you’re interviewing for a new position, you’ll be more aware of the impact a supervisor has, and you’ll have more understanding of what you want in a boss. Perhaps you’ll see red flags you might have missed before.
I know this sounds a little nutty, but that jerk of a boss is giving you a great opportunity. You have the chance to adapt, to implement new strategies and, ultimately, build a bridge in some fashion. It might never be the perfect relationship, but there’s always a chance you can improve things. So don’t give up! Look for openings to strengthen your partnership. Use your relationship building skills and develop new ones. There IS room for growth here.
Want some help fixing this relationship? Join my free webinar!
How to Repair Damaged Professional Relationships
Date: February 9, 2012
Time: 2:00 pm ET / 11:00 am PT
Description: When it comes to career success, there’s nothing that can make or break you more than your professional relationships. They can be your biggest strength or your greatest weakness. If you aren’t paying attention to them, and doing everything within your power to strengthen them, you’re potentially causing damage to your career and missing out on exciting opportunities.
If you’re currently experiencing tension in the workplace—with a co-worker, superior, subordinate, client or anyone else—you don’t want to miss this free webinar session.
Attendees will learn…
- How to recognize damage in your relationships
- How to identify the cause of the damage
- 6 steps to repair damage (and prevent it from happening in the future)
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