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Archive for May 2012

Paper + Pen = Magic at Work

At various points in my career, I’ve been in managerial positions where I directly supervised people. I’ll be honest; it’s not my favorite thing to do (hence the one-woman show I run now).

I remember a few years ago, I had to give an employee who was performing at a sub-standard level a performance review. As we walked into a private room for the meeting, she said, “Oh. Should I bring a pen or something?” She was literally walking into her review completely unprepared. No paper, no pen, no thoughtful list of items she’d like to discuss.

SIGH.

During the review, I asked her to create a document that outlined her suggestions for how to improve and I set a deadline of two weeks. I never got anything back from her. I’m sure you can guess how this worked out.

You see, I have a thing about writing. And paper. In my opinion, they create magic in the workplace. How, you ask? Let me explain…

1. It looks like you care.

Had this employee walked into her review with a pad of paper and a pen, she would have started off in a much better position. It would at least LOOKED like she cared about what I was saying, that she wanted to do her best to really listen and remember the specific items we discussed. Walking in without anything was the equivalent of saying, “Is this gonna take long?”

It goes beyond that though. Whenever you can walk into any business meeting (whether it’s a review, an interview or a planning session) with a written document in hand, you look more prepared. Even if you’ve just brainstormed a few rough ideas or made note of some questions you want to ask, it shows forethought. And when you make the effort to write down the important points being discussed, you show the person you’re speaking with that you’re listening. It’s not difficult to do, and it really makes a positive impression.

Had that employee brought with her a few pages of notes full of her accomplishments, her concerns and her goals for the future…had she walked in with a pad of paper ready to take notes…and had she later followed up with a nicely written outline of her suggestions for improvement in the future…she would have had a long, fruitful career at the company. A little effort goes a long way.

2. Your memory isn’t what it used to be.

Aside from appearances, writing has a very tangible purpose as well. When I worked as an Executive Assistant, I never went anywhere without a pad of paper and a pen in my hand (or in my hair or behind my ear or around my neck or in my pocket). There was always a chance someone would shout an important piece of information at me as I strolled to the break room for a coffee refill, and I didn’t want to miss it.

Has this ever happened to you? You’re walking to go to the copy room, for example. Your mind is on a million different things, and someone stops you in the hall to discuss a project. Before you know it, you have three new tasks to add to your to-do list. You continue on to the copier trying desperately to remember the tasks. But then, you’re distracted by yet another conversation. And by the time you get back to your desk, the new tasks have vanished from your memory.

Don’t chance it. Write everything down as quickly as possible. If carrying a big, hefty notepad bugs you, there are options. They make very small pads of paper that fit nicely into jacket or pants pockets, for example. I’ve even seen some companies now that have their employees walking around with iPads for just this reason. Whatever makes you comfortable; just get the information out of your head and onto something concrete FAST.

3. Writing changes everything.

It might sound dramatic but it’s very true—writing changes everything. Putting a thought onto paper forces you to put it into real terms. The act of writing creates a new understanding. Don’t believe me? Give it a try sometime. Next time you’re struggling with a problem, pull out a sheet of paper and get to it. My prediction is that, within about twenty minutes or so, you’ll have a brand new perspective.

As a natural-born writer, I may be a little biased here. But please take my advice to heart. Writing is a craft and, yes, it requires an investment of time and energy. But it’s absolutely worthwhile in so many ways. I’m sure I’ll come up with more on this topic and perhaps this will be an ongoing conversation. Until then, I’d love to know your thoughts. Any experiences you care to share? Add your voice in the comments below.

Photo Credit: J. Paxon Reyes (Flickr)

How to Boost Morale When Things Are Grim

It’s no secret that times are tough. The economic outlook seems to change by the minute and the only thing certain is that things are still uncertain. That’s why I thought this recent question from my free coaching call was worthwhile sharing with others. No matter what your situation, you just never know what the future holds, so hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

Here’s the question:

Several of my co-workers and I have been told that we will no longer be needed and have been given our last date of employment with our company. How can we keep morale up while we are still employed?

First off, this person has an amazing attitude. Instead of simply checking out, she’s concerned about trying to keep the team (and herself) in good spirits and productive right up to the last minute with their current employer. What a way to go! In my opinion, that’s taking the high road. This person doesn’t want to burn bridges or let her team descend into angst in their final days. She wants them to leave with their heads held high, showing that this bump in the road hasn’t gotten the best of them. You go girl!

As for recommendations, I have a few. It’s important to avoid prolonged gripe sessions. It’s way too easy to stew over the situation and, especially when an entire group is affected, let the emotions boil endlessly. It might feel good for a moment, but it’s not helpful in the long run. Ultimately, it just makes everyone feel worse. So go ahead and vent—get it out and then move on.

The same thing goes for placing blame and pointing fingers. It doesn’t help to label certain people as the “bad guys”. Remember that often, those who are left behind after layoffs suffer tremendously with survivor’s guilt. Don’t try to make it harder for them. Chances are, the choice was out of their control.

One last thing to avoid here: Coulda-woulda-shoulda thinking. This only leads to regrets. You can’t change the circumstances so don’t go there. Give yourself the gift of releasing the past and focusing on the future.

I know it sounds trite, but the old cliché is really true: When one door closes, another one opens. You and your co-workers will find new opportunities. In my experience, most people end up better off after something like this. Why? Because getting laid off really triggers your survival instinct. It can be stressful, yes. But it also can lead to all kinds of creative, new ways of thinking. You’ll start re-evaluating your skills, your values, your career goals and your life dreams in a way that, perhaps, you wouldn’t have done in the safety of employment. Keep this in mind as you move forward. The future is indeed bright, no matter how dark it feels right now.

That being said, it’s critical that you take a proactive approach to managing your stress. Do everything you can to take care of yourself, now more than ever before. Think of all those things you know but often don’t give the proper attention to—like taking breaks, eating right and exercising. These simple actions can make a world of difference.

And have fun! If you want your team to keep their morale high, make it as fun as you possibly can. Put some music on, schedule a weekly lunch outing, take afternoon walk breaks. Heck, plan a going away party for yourselves. Lighten up the mood in any way you can. But of course, be respectful of your team. Remember that everyone processes things differently and some people may have a hard time seeing the “light” in this moment. Be a source of positive inspiration and a shoulder to lean on when needed.

Lastly, I encourage you and your team to prepare as best you can. Spruce up your resume; get out into the community and network, network, network; start the job search process now so it doesn’t sneak up on you. The more you prepare for the future, the less anxiety you’ll feel about it.

I wish the best of luck to anyone who is in this situation or anything similar. I know how hard it is to keep a tough exterior when things are feeling out of control. Remember that these things don’t have to tear you down. You can’t change the event, but you do have the power to manage your response. And that can make a world of difference on the outcome.

Photo Credit: Dawn (Willis) Manser (Flickr)

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