But today, I want to turn that around and talk about the other side of the coin: sharing credit with others.
Itâ€™s an overlooked, but equally important part of your career success.
A true professional knows that, whenever you experience a great achievement at work, you should be vocal about it! Tell your superiors exactly what you did and how you accomplished it. But, when others are involved, be sure to share credit where itâ€™s rightfully due.
All too often, we get caught up in self-promotion at workâ€”a great tool for building a strong professional reputationâ€”but itâ€™s not a â€śzero sumâ€ť game: For me to â€świnâ€ť doesnâ€™t mean anyone else has to â€ślose.â€ť In fact, when I help others enjoy a win, I also help myself. Hereâ€™s how it works.
You Show Youâ€™re a Team Player
Talking up the value and contributions of your teammates shows that you recognize the power of collaborationâ€”and youâ€™re good at it! Speak about what â€śweâ€ť accomplished (not what â€śIâ€ť accomplished) and youâ€™ll become known as a smart person to partner with. Be a shining example of teamwork and people will seek you out.
You Prove Your Confidence
Talking about the great work of others shows youâ€™re not insecure. You have confidence in your own role and the value of your own contributions, so youâ€™re not afraid of letting someone else have their moment of glory too.
Your Demonstrate Leadership
Acknowledging others is a key trait of great managers. When you do so, regardless of your title or position, it shows you have leadership abilities. You gain a reputation as more than just a hard worker; you become seen as someone capable of bringing out the great work in others.
Your Teammates Will Remember
People love to be acknowledged and it just doesnâ€™t happen enough these days. Whether it comes from the CEO or a peer in the next cubicle over, it makes you feel seen and appreciated. People donâ€™t forget that. Plus, it can have a real impact on how their colleagues see them and treat them. While itâ€™s our responsibility to self-promote, itâ€™s awfully nice when others provide some supportive reinforcement.
Above all else, it just feels good to recognize the people around you. It feels honest because it IS honest. Very few victories we experience at work happen without assistance from others. It takes a little extra effort to give an authentic shout-out to your well-deserving teammates, but itâ€™s worth itâ€”for you and for them.
Written by Chrissy Scivicque, March 23rd, 2015 | 1 Comment »
Well, friends, let me start this blog post by saying one thing: Iâ€™m still alive!
I know, I know. Itâ€™s beenâ€¦likeâ€¦forever.
Or more accurately, itâ€™s been almost a year. A YEAR! I can hardly believe it. And yet, I can believe it because so much has happened.
Hereâ€™s a quick overview of whatâ€™s been going on (and then I promise Iâ€™ll get into the details):
I endured a painful (though ultimately incredibly necessary) break up
I sank into the darkest depression of my lifeâ€”so deep, I was terrified I might not recover
I released a handful of people and habits that no longer served me
I embraced a handful of people and habits that serve me in a way I never knew possible
I took my own advice and evaluated my career pathâ€¦and decided it was time for a change
I started a full time engagement as a corporate trainer
I was promoted from corporate trainer to program lead in three months
I started a new, exciting relationship with the man of my dreams
I woke up one morning and thought, â€śWow. Iâ€™m alive. Probably more alive than Iâ€™ve ever beenâ€¦if such a thing is possible. And Iâ€™m so, so grateful.â€ť
In shortâ€”itâ€™s been the best of times and the worst of times. Looking back on 2014, I see that old adage is true: â€śThis too shall pass.â€ť Everythingâ€”the good, the bad, and the downright uglyâ€”everything is temporary.
Things change and thank God they do. I never would have guessed this time last year that things would change this much, but thatâ€™s the beauty of life. Not knowing where youâ€™ll land. And at some point, just learning to trust that wherever it is, youâ€™ll land on your feet.
In truth, my list above offers only a shallow look at what has been, essentially, a dramatic (and at times traumatic) transition in my life and career. Beneath these highlights and lowlights, there were many, many hours spent wallowing in personal reflection, fear, anxiety, confusion, self-pity and indecisiveness. To share it all here would be impossible, but I will address some of the key things you may be wondering.
First, letâ€™s talk work.
I started this business in 2009 and truly loved every minute of it for the first two years. I was absolutely inspired and overwhelmed with excitement for the opportunities that lay ahead.
However, when I moved to Denver in 2011, something slowly began to shift. You see, Iâ€™m not exactly the type of person who is naturally cut out for self-employment. Sure, I have a million great ideas (SQUIRREL!). I love being my own boss and making my own schedule. And I truly love my work.
But thereâ€™s a whole lot more to it than that. Things like taxes and bookkeeping and selling. (It makes my head hurt to think of it all.) And at some point, all of those things I used to loveâ€”the ideas, the flexible schedule, and even the workâ€”those things became double-edged swords. I had too many ideas and not enough time or money to invest in making them happen. I missed not having an office and a steady schedule. I missed doing the work I loved, because the work that paid the bills always got priority.
Iâ€™ll write more about my self-employment experience in the future I’m sure, but for now, let me just say this: I worked very, very hard in my business. I believe I probably could have worked even harderâ€”toward the end I certainly slackedâ€”but I just wasnâ€™t willing to do what it would take to keep it alive. I had a great level of success with it, with television appearances and exciting speaking gigs and more, and Iâ€™m absolutely thrilled that I had the experience. I could, quite possibly, jump back into it again in the future. I would definitely do things differently if soâ€”and it wonâ€™t be tomorrowâ€”but for now, Iâ€™m confident in my decision to make this change.
The decision came sometime around April of last year (2013), after many months of painstaking reflection. Once the decision was made, however, I sat on it for about two months, determined not to be hasty.
In June, I started aggressively job searching. Again, I took my own advice and activated my professional network. My very first official interview resulted in a job offer, which I declined (with great anxiety!). It wasnâ€™t a perfect fit, and I wasnâ€™t willing to settle.
By early July, I was submitting resumes through online job boards sporadically but still relying on my network to create the kinds of connections I thought I would need to get a real foot in any door.
Surprise, surpriseâ€”the ideal position came from an early morning resume submission through Indeed.com. The job looked absolutely ideal. So good, in fact, I thought I was missing something. An hour after hitting â€śsendâ€ť on my application, I got an email asking me to come in that day for an interview. A week later, I was asked to present a short training as a means of â€śauditioningâ€ť for the job. Two days after that, I had an offer.
When the stars align, things just click.
I am firm believer that the right things come along at the right time. And when theyâ€™re right, you know it.
I had no hesitation whatsoever about accepting this position and I havenâ€™t regretted it for even a day.
I was hired as a corporate trainer. My role was to design and deliver training courses for internal staff at my new company. (Yep, this is the part of my business I loved that I didnâ€™t get to do enough.)
Three months later, I was promoted to Program Lead. I now create and oversee our entire Personal & Professional Development Learning Program for the company, which currently consists of 5 individual, ongoing projects.
When itâ€™s right, it just clicks.
So thatâ€™s it for the work update (for now). Letâ€™s move on to the personal stuffâ€¦a far more difficult update to put on paper.
Iâ€™m not one for airing my dirty laundry, so Iâ€™ll be somewhat vague while still hopefully satisfying your curiosity.
Iâ€™ve suffered from depression for the majority of my life from the age of about 14. Iâ€™ve experienced several major episodes over the years, and this past year was probably one of the worst. When I say â€śmajorâ€ť, itâ€™s no joke. If you havenâ€™t ever experienced such a thing, imagine this:
Waking up in the morning and wishing you hadnâ€™t…like really.Â
Crying yourself to sleep in the middle of the day.
A sense of dread washing over you when you realize thereâ€™s no food in the house, and that means you have to get dressed and go outside and be around people.
Believing nothing will ever feel good, taste good, sound good, or look good again.
Knowing youâ€™re hurting your friends and family by pushing them away, but being unable to stop yourself.
Worrying that life as you know it has permanently shifted, and this new life just might not be worth the effort.
Iâ€™m sure this isnâ€™t easy to read. Itâ€™s no picnic to write either. Iâ€™m not ashamed of how I felt, but it does feel strange to share it so openly here.
Still, I canâ€™t ignore this part of what happened this past year. It matters, because it changed.
That worry I hadâ€”that the pain was permanentâ€”that was my disease talking. Itâ€™s not the truth.
I donâ€™t know what happened exactly, but something sparked me into action. I think I just scared myself so much, I could no longer pretend what was happening was normal or acceptable.
I shifted into action at that point. And this, my friends, is what I know: Action is the key to change. You canâ€™t think yourself into a better place. You just have to take action. Doing the right thingsâ€”talking to people, changing your habits, asking for help, being decisive, facing your fearsâ€”these are the things that shift your thinking. You just have to wake up in the morning and do it, even when you donâ€™t want to. Especially when you donâ€™t want to.
Iâ€™m proud of where Iâ€™ve been and where I landed. And today, Iâ€™m excited for the future.
So letâ€™s talk about that, shall we? Where do we go from here?
This website is my baby. Iâ€™ve nurtured it from infancy, and many of you have witnessed its growth through the years. I can no more abandon it than I could a real child. Iâ€™ve taken a long, re-energizing break, and Iâ€™m ready to re-commit to it.
My passion project nowâ€”the thing that really gets my wheels turningâ€”is writing a real, in-print, full-length book. In the meantime, Iâ€™m going to continue writing about personal and professional development topics (with my own unique spin of course) regularly for you here. This blog feeds my creativity and keeps me connected to all of you, my dear like-minded fellow professionals. I hope that when my passion project is complete, youâ€™ll want to read it.
I also still have a few (okayâ€¦MANY) ideas Iâ€™d like to continue playing around with. I truly love personal and professional development and I love helping others explore the same topics that excite me. I also love the freedom and autonomy that come with running your own business. So, while Iâ€™m currently on a break from it, who knows what the future holds. When itâ€™s right, things just click. So weâ€™ll see what clicks.
Finally, Iâ€™m still doing the occasional speaking and training event for corporate clients. So donâ€™t hesitate to contact me with opportunities. Iâ€™m certainly not closing the door on anything. Iâ€™m merely following a new path to see where it leads. I hope youâ€™ll choose to continue walking with me by visiting this blog.
Iâ€™ve been thinking a lot about compromise lately. Some people do it too much in life, others not enough. Over the past year, I compromised a lot to be with someone I thought I loved. If you asked him, heâ€™d say he did the same. At some point, the question loomed: If all of this compromise is required, is this the right thing for either of us?
Itâ€™s a hard, gut-wrenching lesson to learn in romance, but it also applies to your career.
Compromise is indeed a requirement for successful relationships and successful careers. We canâ€™t have everything our way 100% of the time. Holding out hope that you can is setting yourself up for a lot of pain. Sometimes, you have to sacrifice one thing to make other things possible. You give up a plan you had because the other person has a different one. You give up a ridiculously high salary because the job that actually makes you happy doesnâ€™t pay as well as the one that makes you miserable.
Itâ€™s a matter of give and take, finding a middle ground where both sides still can be happyâ€”where youâ€™re able to say itâ€™s a worthwhile exchange: By giving up this thing, I get this better thing.
Give up your plan, get love. Give up the salary, get job satisfaction.
Itâ€™s hard to know where that â€śperfectâ€ť point is though. You donâ€™t always know the reality of what youâ€™re giving up and what youâ€™re getting and the true value of those things. You donâ€™t always know what other options exist. You have to make choices without knowing if somewhere out there you really could, possibly, have it ALL. Your plan and love. The salary and job satisfaction. Or maybe just a version of life where youâ€™re closer to having it allâ€¦
So hereâ€™s what Iâ€™ve learned about compromise, and it applies to love, career, anything.
Start by knowing what 100% looks like for you. What would your career/marriage/new home etc. be if you had 100% of what you want? Donâ€™t hold back. Go big. Be bold. Define what you really, really want from this thing, whatever it is.
Then, as you survey your optionsâ€”job prospects, eligible suitors, homes for saleâ€”really ask yourself: What am I gaining and what am I giving up? And ask yourself if the trade is a win.
I call it Conscious Compromise. Too often, I think we compromise without consciously even knowing weâ€™re doing it. We only realize in hindsight that we did, and usually when things arenâ€™t working out, when weâ€™re questioning our choices. At that point, the value of the thing we gave up seems enormous. And maybe it is, but maybe it isnâ€™t.
Conscious Compromise doesnâ€™t mean youâ€™ll suddenly NOT want the thing you gave up. That ridiculously high salary? Yeah, it would still be nice. And youâ€™ll miss it. But if you made the choice consciouslyâ€”you weighed the gains and losses honestlyâ€”you wonâ€™t miss the thing you gave up as much. Youâ€™ll know it was deemed a reasonable price to pay for what you were getting in return. And yes, that could change. But at some point, you really did give it the thought it deserved.
Conscious Compromise also doesnâ€™t mean youâ€™ll make the perfect choices every time. You may still end up in a bad relationship, a job you hate, or a home that doesnâ€™t really work for you. But that value question I mentioned earlier? The one in bold print? Youâ€™ll learn something about that. Youâ€™ll learn more about what you value. Youâ€™ll learn more about what youâ€™re really willing to give up and what youâ€™re not. And youâ€™ll make different choices next time.
I donâ€™t believe in perfect people or perfect jobs. But Iâ€™m still a romantic at heart. I do believe there is a perfect person for me, just like thereâ€™s one for you. In fact, there are probably many. And I do believe thereâ€™s a perfect job for me, just like thereâ€™s one for youâ€”probably many.
By â€śperfectâ€ť I mean that the compromise doesnâ€™t truly feel like compromise. It feels like winning. It feels like you lucked out. If feels like whatever that stupid thing was that you gave upâ€¦it never mattered to begin with.
If it sounds like Iâ€™m talking out of both sides of my mouth here, I am. You really canâ€™t have everything. But when the right thing comes along, youâ€™ll have everything you need and then some. Thatâ€™s the paradox that is life.
Written by Chrissy Scivicque, April 24th, 2014 | 3 Comments »
Congratulations! You got hired! Now the hard part starts.
The first 30 days on the job is a critical time for creating your professional reputation. Like it or not, first impressions are often lasting impressions. But most of us are so focused on learning the ropes, we forget to consider how others might be receiving us. So, how do you ensure you make a strong, professional first impression even as you ramp up to speed in your new gig?
This was the topic of my most recent interview on Fox 31 Denver’s Good Day Colorado. Watch the video below to get my hottest tips for how to get started on the right foot with your new employer and new colleagues from day 1.
Written by Chrissy Scivicque, April 04th, 2014 | 1 Comment »
Whether you’ve voluntarily taken some time off work or involuntarily found yourself unemployed, it’s important to keep your skills sharp while out of the workforce. Whatever the reason you’re not working, every day that passes by where you’re not using your professional skills is a chance for you to fall behind the competition–and that could make it very hard to get back into the workforce when the time comes.
Here’s the good news: Even when you’re not working there are ample opportunities for using your professional skills if you know where to look. In my most recent interview on Good Day Colorado, I address this topic and share 5 tips for staying sharp and connected while out of the workforce. Enjoy the video below!
Written by Chrissy Scivicque, March 10th, 2014 | 1 Comment »