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Mindful Minutes: A Simple, Effective Way to Manage Stress at Work (or Anywhere)

Having written an entire workbook teaching people how to reduce the “frazzle” of life, it always surprises me when I stumble on a new stress management technique that actually works. Sure, there’s always some new fangled idea floating around. Unfortunately, more often than not, I find such ideas are full of promise but lack the substance to really make them worthwhile.

This is why I’m so excited to share my latest discovery and how it came about. Here’s the story:

I caught a radio interview with Goldie Hawn the other day. Yes, she’s the stunningly beautiful blond actress who appears to be aging backwards in a Benjamin Button kind of way. But she wasn’t sharing beauty tips. Instead, she was talking about a new children’s education program her foundation is supporting called Mind Up.

This program seeks to incorporate mindfulness strategies into traditional classroom education. The research of positive psychology shows that teaching children strategies for focusing their attention and monitoring experience without immediately reacting has the potential to impact brain function as well as improve social and emotional well-being and balance.

During the interview, the actress-turned-advocate discussed one aspect of the program that particularly caught my interest. Among other activities, children in the Mind Up program enjoy “Mindful Minutes,” where they simply sit quietly and reflect. This gives them a few short meditative breaks during the otherwise chaotic school day in which they are given the space and freedom to decompress and wind down. They’re finding that children in the program are experiencing less stress, have better concentration, and feel more optimistic in general.

So, this got me thinking. What if we all took Mindful Minutes throughout the day? What if, every few hours, we just shut the door or stepped away from the computer for just five minutes and let silence wash over us? How would that impact our stress throughout the workday?

I’ve been trying out the technique for the past few weeks since I heard this interview. And, though it’s been somewhat difficult to get into the rhythm, I’ve definitely noticed a significant impact on days when I make Mindful Minutes a priority.

My final verdict? Mindful Minutes are a great addition to any stress management program.

Here’s why:

Strength of Body and Mind

It only takes a few minutes to re-energize your body and mind. Energy levels stay remarkably higher when you aren’t camped out at your desk all day. Mindful Minutes will force you to get up and step away from your groove. If possible, go outside and enjoy a little sunshine and fresh air in the process. Physically, you’ll feel less tense and mentally, you’ll be more alert when you return.

Improved Creativity and Enthusiasm

Even if you’re totally absorbed in a project, breaking your stride is actually a really GOOD thing. It gives you a chance to take a step back, shift your perspective and gain clarity. Sometimes, we get so deeply focused on the details; we lose sight of the bigger goals. A few minutes to reflect and mentally reorganize can do wonders for creativity and enthusiasm.

More Rational Decision-making

When emotions are running high or you’re feeling anxious and stressed, it can be tempting to make snap decisions. This is especially dangerous in the workplace. A few minutes spent relaxing in a quiet environment can help put things back in perspective and inspire you to handle frustration in a more rational, professional way.

How to Use Mindful Minutes

If you’re interested in using the Mindful Minutes technique, here’s what I would recommend:

  • Make a schedule and follow it. Every two to three hours worked well for me, but you might want to play around with it. Just don’t let yourself do it “whenever you feel like it” because, chances are, you’ll get distracted and won’t follow through. Plus, part of the impact comes from the routine. When you don’t think you need to do it, you often have the most powerful experiences.
  • Keep the breaks short. Don’t dawdle and waste time. This isn’t a real “break”. It’s a brain break. Five minutes is really ideal.
  • Have an established place to go where it’s quiet and you won’t be bothered. If possible, go outside and stand in a ray of sunshine.
  • Don’t DO anything. This isn’t a break to run an errand, pick up lunch or chat with a coworker. Resist the urge to multi-task. Your only responsibility for these five minutes is to yourself.

I know how hard it is to manage stress, whether at work, at home or on the road. Even with all the research I’ve done and all the techniques I’ve used, I still have trouble on some days. I know that regularly incorporating the Mindful Minutes strategy into my regular routine will have a profound effect. I hope you’ll try it as well and report back.

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Listen Now: Caution, Your Emotions Are Showing!

A few weeks ago, I hosted a free teleseminar with my good friend Sydni Craig-Hart (of Executive Assistant to Virtual Assistant) and she was kind enough to record it. For your listening pleasure, I’ve loaded it in here. Please take some time out of your busy day to sit back, relax and learn all about how to manage stress and emotions in the workplace. Remember, we’re coming up to the holiday season. Stress is coming, whether you like it or not!

This session IS NOT  full of those generic stress management tips you’ve heard before. It’s got real, tangible tools to help you get stress under control right now.

Dedicate just an hour of your time and you will:

  • Identify the ways in which you are experiencing stress emotionally, mentally and physically.
  • Identify the circumstances that cause these emotional reactions.
  • Learn techniques to improve your awareness of these issues and prevent them from creating unintended obstacles in the workplace.
  • Learn fun and easy techniques for managing and minimizing all types of stress.

Ready to get help? Good.

Click the link below and listen now:

Caution, Your Emotions are Showing

Additional Resources: Life Less Frazzled: An Interactive Guide to Beat Stress Before It Beats You

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Five Strategies to Cope When Quitting Really Isn’t an Option

Those who say “quitters never win” are fooling themselves. If you stick something out just because you’re afraid of giving up—and it’s something that no longer serves you—you’re wasting your time. And ultimately, you lose. Sure, you’re not a quitter. But you sure as hell aren’t winning either.

When it comes to work, quitting is sometimes the best move you can make. Often, it’s a necessary step for forward movement, growth, and pursuing your life’s purpose.

Still, as we all know, quitting sometimes really isn’t an option. Not because it isn’t the right thing to do; sometimes, you just can’t feasibly move on. Maybe you just can’t financially afford to leave your current job. Or maybe the health insurance coverage isn’t something you can give up. Or maybe the stress of leaving right now would be far worse than the stress of simply sticking it out for a while longer. These things happen. This is reality.

You can’t always pick up and move on the second you realize it’s the right thing to do. In fact, it’s rare that a decision to quit can be acted on quickly. It takes time and preparation. So, if you know it’s time to quit but doing so right now simply isn’t possible, try the following:

1. Emotionally disconnect.

Remember: It’s just work, it’s not YOU. Many people—myself included—think of work as an extension of their identity. So, if you’re in a job you hate, you can start to hate yourself. Now is the time to put it in perspective. You are not your job. Your job is simply providing you with something—whatever that thing is that makes quitting impossible. Focus on that and break the emotional connection.

2. Find a friend.

Happiness has a lot to do with relationships. Even if you’re ready to leave your job, you can still enjoy the social side of work. Find a person—just one is all it takes—who gets you. Having a friend at work makes every day easier.

3. Get out.

Don’t just hang around in an environment that feels like it’s slowly draining you. Get out and breathe some fresh air. Take lunch out of the office, go on walks throughout the day, or just take a few minutes to sit outside instead of stewing in the frustration that surrounds you. The more perspective you can get, the more you’ll be able to deal with the current situation.

4. Take steps.

It might not be feasible to quit right now, but circumstances will change. Start saving money, learn new skills, network and make connections. Prepare yourself for a time when you can leave this job and find something more fulfilling…because it will happen sooner or later.

5. Stress less.

I call this “managing the inner game” and truly, this is the most important point here. Believe me, once you know that quitting is what you’d like to do but it’s just not possible at the moment, your stress will skyrocket. This is a natural result of feeling trapped. Every instinct in your body is screaming, “FIGHT OR FLIGHT!” It’s also a result of feeling stagnant. You want to move forward and yet, due to circumstances beyond your control, you’re standing still. Don’t ignore these emotions; manage them. Actively work to get your stress under control so you don’t end up making some irrational, emotional decision you’ll later regret.

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The Most Expensive Habit You’re Ignoring

I’ve been a bit frazzled lately. Yesterday, I realized that my refrigerator was full of condiments but empty of real food. But the idea of going to the grocery store was almost overwhelming. I’d have to make a list, first off. And then, even after I had the food, I’d have to prepare it and clean up after myself. Sounded like a lot of work and, being already frazzled, I wasn’t in the mood for all that. So, instead of dining on ketchup, I called a friend and met up with her for dinner downtown.

We went for Italian, one of my favorites. We shared a bottle of wine and, finding myself relaxed for the first time in a while, I decided to indulge in pasta with a rich, decadent sauce. We even split dessert afterward. The bill was probably close to what I would have spent at the grocery store buying a week’s worth of food. When dinner was over, I was uncomfortably stuffed. It was early but I was ready for bed.

Now, this isn’t altogether “common” for me so I’m not beating myself up. But for some people, this is just a part of the daily routine. That frazzled feeling leads to all kinds of bad choices, many of which come at a very high cost.

Whether you realize it or not, stress is a habit. When you fall into it, you create patterns. You justify unhealthy decisions; you choose the easy road; you give in to temptation because you’re looking for some kind of comfort and because fighting it off takes energy you just don’t have. The habit of stress is slowly sucking away your money, your productivity, your energy and your health.

Stress Costs Money

How much money do you spend as a direct or indirect result of stress? The answer may surprise you. Review your spending for the past week and analyze the motivations behind each purchase. Did you head to Starbucks one day because the office was driving you nuts and you just had to get away? Did you buy that fabulous pair of red shoes because you were angry with your boyfriend and a little retail therapy seemed in order? For some, spending money is a helpful distraction from stress. Others spend money for convenience and comfort: two things that become exponentially more appealing when under stress.

Stress Kills Productivity

How much time do you waste being stressed? Do you find that stress makes concentration more difficult? What about your interactions with others? Stress causes strain on even the healthiest relationships. You may end up arguing over little things because you’re so frazzled; your patience and temper are on a short fuse. Stress can truly kill personal and professional productivity as time and focus are wasted on unnecessary bickering and worry.

Stress Uses Energy

Ultimately, stress is a huge energy suck. It absorbs your mental, physical and spiritual vitality leaving little to put towards achieving your personal and professional goals. When you’re stressed, you’re exhausted all the time. Your body is in “survival mode” and using all of its energy to fight some perceived threat—whether real or imagined, it’s all the same to your body and mind.

Stress Harms Health

When all of your strength is being used in the stress experience, your body has nothing left to fight off disease. It literally shuts down all processes that aren’t immediately necessary for survival in order to deal with the stress. Plus, those unhealthy decisions we make as a result of stress can come with some very serious consequences.

Medical problems are the ultimate high cost of stress. The American Psychological Association says that two-thirds of office visits to family physicians are due to stress-related symptoms. Medical researchers now estimate that stress is the underlying cause of over 80% of all illnesses. These numbers are staggering. It’s clear that far too many people are ignoring the incredibly expensive habit of stress.

So, how much is your stress really costing you? Your money, your productivity, your energy and your health are all at risk.

Need some help managing your stress? Look no further.

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