February is the month of love, so in honor of St. Valentine, let’s talk about love at work.
No, I’m not referring to workplace romances. That’s not my area of expertise. But, if you’re looking for my advice on the topic—DON’T DO IT.
I’m actually more interested in talking about love FOR work. Some people have it, some people don’t. For some, it depends on the day.
Here’s what I know: Yes, some jobs are easier to love than others, and some days are more lovable. But I also believe love is a choice we make.
Anyone who’s ever experienced love with another person knows this. People are inherently flawed. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean they suddenly become perfect.
But, when you love them, you choose to focus on their positive qualities. You probably still have minor irritations from time to time. Heck, maybe you have a few major ones as well. Love might blind you for a bit, but eventually you see these things.
You certainly can choose to dwell on them. But when you do, they only become bigger and more irritating. If you’re not careful, your love can start to deteriorate. The better choice is to lovingly address what needs to be addressed, find an agreeable solution, and then turn your attention back to the good.
This, in my opinion, is the secret to a happy relationship and a happy work life. [Read more…]